How to Stop Feeling Frustrated with the People You Love
How to support loved ones who keep making “bad” decisions
How to support loved ones who keep making “bad” decisions
There are three types of emotional wounds: Those that heal quickly, those that take a long time to heal, and those that remain with you until you die. Or so a famous Japanese writer said.
Emotional wounds are often subtle. The problems build up, little by little, until one day, something goes wrong. And you’ll have to face it.
I was forced to examine my emotional wound when I couldn’t keep my penis hard during sex.
When I left my job at a tech startup years ago, I realized that I wanted to do something different.
I was afraid of changing lanes, but I decided to go for it anyway. I did a lot of research, took crash courses, networked with people, built up my portfolio, applied to jobs, and pitched to clients.
But all I got was crickets.
Freedom is like money. If you don’t plan how to spend it — and you don’t stick to that plan — you’ll waste it fast.
Back in September 2019, I quit my job and freelance projects to write my first novel. I gave myself 6–8 months to focus. I had enough in the bank to survive, so I thought I’d get back to work after I finish the book.
But 6 months later, I still didn’t have a book or a full novel draft.
I learned exactly what was holding me back in life by running my first 10-kilometer race.
Running a 10K race is no big deal. Even a kid could do it. But I was unhealthy, weak, and going nowhere in life. That run pushed my mediocre limits. It revealed the self-limiting habit that messed up my goals and life decisions.