Hi! I’m John Pucay (pronounced Jaan Poo-kuhy).
I’m an indigenous person (Kankanaey-Ibaloi) from the Philippines. And I mostly write about relationships, dating, polyamory, and running. But since PSILY in Medium is closing (and 80% of my relationships articles are published there), I may focus more on other topics I’m interested in, like: career, work, and mindfulness. And continue the running and polyamory stuff.
I quit my corporate job in 2019 to pursue writing full-time. I moved back in with my parents in early 2020 to “stabilize” my writing career and finances. Then the pandemic happened. So far:
- I’m still writing my first novel, which is now on its 4th draft after I threw away the other three.
- I moved out to my own apartment in March 2021.
- Then I started publishing seriously on Medium this April 2021.
- Medium pays my internet bill and coffee shop expenses while my writing client pays my food and rent money.
- I provide writing and research services for bloggers, authors, and companies.
My short stories, published in literary magazines.
A story I wrote after my (now ex) girlfriend flew back to her home country and ghosted me, just as the lockdowns were beginning in March 2020. It’s the first short story I ever published.
It first appeared in print in Brittle Star Literary Magazine (based in the UK). And it’s available online here on Medium. It’s also the first Medium story I ever published.
A short story about the burden of familial obligations and trying to rise above one’s place in the food chain of life and success. First published in Anomaly International Journal of Literature (based in Boston, MA).
I first wrote it in May 2020. But it only came out this April 2021. It’s my 2nd traditionally published story. And I’m quite proud (and embarrassed too) that as I read my work now, a year from when I first wrote it, I somehow cringe at the clunkiness of my prose.
But hey, we all make art that isn’t so good, don’t we?
This story holds a special place in my heart though, clunky as it is. It contains my deepest feelings about being born poor and seeing all my peers get the things I have to work five times harder for just because they have the means and I don’t.
I also wrote a couple of op-eds. One kept me from being homeless. Another got me dates with 2 gorgeous women:
I wrote this when I was about to get kicked out of my apartment. I was recently fired from my tech startup job and I became too broke to pay my rent. Feeling low, I wrote about my predicament and submitted it to The Philippine Daily Inquirer. Then I forgot about it.
A few days later, I started receiving emails from good-hearted people who wanted to give me a job. I eventually got 2 website marketing clients and a full-time job at a large conglomerate. I didn’t get the corporate job through the article. But thanks to my 2 other clients who paid me a good advance rate, I was able to pay my rent and continue my job search. It’s mainly thanks to them that I didn’t go back to my hometown (I worked in Metro Manila then) with my tail between my legs.
Since I live in a Catholic country, I decided to provide a perspective on my relationship orientation. Rappler, the Philippines’ top online news agency, published it this March 2021.
Amazingly, poly people from all over the country reached out to me. And I even had 2 dates from some amazing women who read it and reached out!
Published in Tiny Buddha, this talks about the lessons I’ve learned from getting fired from my first job in Metro Manila and how I coped with it.
There’s also some descriptive imagery about that time I went for a run in the mountains. If you’re feeling down, or you’ve been having one failure after another, this is something I’d offer: From me to you:)
Here are my most popular articles on Medium so far. I’m pretty much a Medium newbie (started publishing seriously just this April 2021) so they’re not that popular. But if you find them helpful, then I’m happy:
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